Thursday, November 13, 2008

Are our friends on the other side of the pond racist?




The other night, Mark was telling me about an article Rosemary Bennett, Social Affairs Correspondent for the Times wrote on the November 10th's issue.

Did you know that there is inter-racial taboos in adoption in the UK? That in 2002 an Adoption and Children Act placed on social workers and authorities to "give significant consideration to culture and identity when looking for suitable parents."?

That the waiting period of white children to be adopted are significantly shorter than children of other ethnicities?

Here is the full article:

Barriers that prevent white couples from adopting black children would be
removed by David Cameron under reforms to stop ethnic minority children
languishing in the care system.
Black and Asian children wait on average three times longer than white children for an adoptive family. Critics say too many adoption agencies are hung up on race, and waste time trying to find perfect matches for children of increasingly complex ethnicity.
The Conservatives have been examining the situation in the United States, where
the law changed ten years ago to prevent adoption agencies from giving
weight to race when finding adoptive families. Within two years of the
change, one third of states said the wait for placements among ethnic
minority children had dropped. A more relaxed attitude towards
inter-racial adoption, which is now almost unheard of in Britain, would give
thousands of children a loving home that they are currently being denied,
the Conservatives say.
The move comes as new figures show a decline in the number of children being adopted from the care system. This year only 2,600 children have been adopted, down from 3,600 in 2004. Experts say the Government needs to take urgent action.
Although popular in the 1970s, inter-racial adoption is now virtually taboo. The 2002
Adoption and Children Act places a duty on local authorities to give “significant consideration” to culture and identity when looking for suitable parents. Many experts believe, however, that that is being interpreted too literally. The Conservatives say they would rewrite part of the law. Michael Gove, Shadow Education Secretary, who was adopted, will head a Tory policy review into adoption, starting with inter-racial matching.
“If we can get more ethnic minority families to come forward, which ensures black children can be matched with black parents, that is fantastic. Our concern is some of the agencies allow the best to be the enemy of the good when it comes to judgments
over who is best placed to adopt children,” he told The Times.
“Being adopted myself, I firmly believe it is better to have children out of care and adopted. The longer they are in care, the more difficult it is for them, and to find adoptive families.” However, Sue Cotton, head of adoption services at the charity Action for Children, who has led efforts to find more ethnic minority families to adopt children, disagreed. “Any change in the law would be quite difficult if it denied the importance of racial identity.” she said.
“You have to balance that against the overall needs of the child. Where a significant
attachment has already been formed with a carer, for example, you would have to
look at that. But we have to learn from adults who went through it, and they say even where the adoption was successful in all other ways, a significant part of their identity is missing.” Research from Julia Feast, an expert in adoption, found 71 per cent of children in inter-racial adoptions said they always “felt different” from the rest of their family, compared with 48 per cent in same-race placements.

When you scroll down the page, there is a box called "Have your say"...interesting...

I should be most interested to hear what your views are regarding this article.


3:15 PM Edit:

On this link another article in the Times on line dated November 9, 2008 "Case study: ‘He knew he didn’t quite fit in’ ". Read this:

...“He had found it hard to adjust to the foster family. His first language is Gujarati, so they struggled to understand him. That meant a huge change in his behaviour when he came here, and we could speak to him. The second thing we noticed was how much he enjoyed our food. The foster parents had really tried and bought the food he knew. But they hadn’t been very good at cooking it and he didn’t know how to eat it"....

and then comes this:
..."But the most important thing is that he totally blends in with the entire extended family. “He doesn’t look any different from anyone...".

Here is my question again...is this racism or what???

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Thanksgiving I

Invites our out:




Now I need to think of the menu...what are you all doing for Thanksgiving?



Thursday, October 30, 2008

A Darling little Devil / Un adorable petit Diable

Aujourd'hui à l'école les enfants fêtent Halloween. Today the kids celebrate Halloween in School.


J'ai cru comprendre que le menu du jour à la cantine sera diabolique ;-)


Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Happy Diwali!

Photo by: keya_arati'


I got this sweet message from a friend of ours! Heartwarming!

To all our friends and family....some we see and talk to often, while some
of you we have not seen in ages....... know that you are all never far from
our thoughts......

These warm wishes come from our HOME and HEARTS to your HOME and HEARTS....

HAPPY DIWALI and May LORD SHIVA bring you peace, serenity, health, wealth
and happiness and love.


Thank you Manik! You are a Sweetie! Happy Diwali to you and your family!

Hugs, XXX


Jamie, Ben et al

A quick one as I am so so tired. I went to bed at 3:00AM this morning and got up at 6:40. Jamie's concert was fabulous. Also we heard his new song he wrote for Clint Eastwood's new film. Lovely!

Jean-Luc, my cousin and I, had seats row 4 and I got to see Jamie's fingers going mad on the Piano. What a wonderful entertainer he is, what a fantastic voice and he doesn't take himself seriously in the least! He's hillarious!

Here are a few videos of last night:







Wonderful wonderful evening! Thank you Mark for letting me go...Thank you Jean-Luc for being such a wonderful cousin, thank you for being so special, spoiling Miss B and for being my Body guard! HA! ;-) We miss you tons over here!

Monday, October 27, 2008

On my way to Paris, to see my Darling Jamie

Photo: Jessiann16


I've got front row tickets!! I'm boing with My darling cousin Jean-Luc...my body guard ;-) A+ J-L!

I'm back! De retour!


I'm back with a new design! I don't really feel like talking about what happened a few weeks ago, I just want to keep things "light and bright" for the time being. As they say it so well in Seychelles...I dont want to brake my head and since I cannot pick a coconut from a tree, I am having a cup of green tea...

Me voici de retour! Je n'ai pas trop envie d'expliquer ce qui s'est passé il y a quelques semaines...je ne souhaite pas me prendre la tête...aux Seychelles ils le disent si bien "Casse pa li tet" et puisque je ne peux aller chercher une noix de coco du palmier, je sirotte un thé vert...


Monday, October 06, 2008

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Paul Newman

TRIBUTE TO PAUL NEWMAN
January 26, 1924 - September 26, 2008


This morning, whilst I was making myself, yet another cup of green tea, Mark was reading the news on the net and announced the news about Paul Newman. I am saddened. I really like(d) him. A great actor! I remember seeing his eyes in "real"...that was 22 years ago or so when my Uncle used to share a sail boat in Connecticut and we bumped into him at the marina. I'm tellen ya eyes like this...waow!




Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Blog...

Blog floating on "half mast"...I am in sort of morning...I have no strength nor will to explain why!

Blog en "berne"...chui endueillée...pas la force ni le courage d'expliquer pourquoi!


Sunday, September 21, 2008

International day of Peace / Journal internationale de la Paix






What are you all up to? Are you participating in any special activities? More on this subject later!

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Update...

Bhavishya and I had great fun at the wedding last w-e, seeing my beloved family in Floridac was fantasti, we went swimming, to the beach, sailing and did some retail therapy and we are (sadly) getting ready to fly home tonight however we are both looking forward to seeing both Mark and Pashmina whom me missed greatly!
Pictures will follow next week!


Bhavishya et moi nous nous sommes amusées comme des folles au mariage le week-end passé. Aussi nous avons beaucoup nagé, nous sommes allées à la plage, navigué sur le voilier de Kalou et nous avons fait du shopping! Nous nous préparons à prendre l'avion ce soir mais nous sommes si triste de quitter notre famille chérie même si nous nous réjouissons de revoir Mark et Pashmina demain...ils nous ont tant manqué!

Les photos suivront la semaine prochaine!


Wednesday, September 17, 2008

B & I are ...


...and I am off saling this afternoon! I am so pleased!!!
...je pars faire de la voile cet apres-midi! Chui aux anges!!!


Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Schueberfouer

Every year, on the eve of the celebration of Saint Barthelemy (August 23) a big fair / kermess is on on one of the major square (La place du Glacis) in Luxembourg - town ...

Chaque année, à la veille de la Saint Barthélémy (23 août), s'installe une grande kermesse sur l'une des grande Place (La place du Glacis) à Luxembourg-Ville...

We got soaked / on s'est fait rinser!
By the way...29 people got stuck on a ride with their heads upside down at about 20 metres (65 feet) high for two-and-a-half hours. Not sure I'd be happy if it would happen to me! Uuurgh! To read more about it, click here.

Sunday, September 07, 2008

SOS

I promissed to burn cds of music for dinner (background music) and dance for a wedding. The bride and the groom are in their 60s.

Any suggestions would be more than welcome!


Thank you!


J'ai promis de graver des cds de musiques pour le diner (musique de fond) puis pour dancer pour un mariage. Le couple est dans la soixantaine.


J'attends toutes vos suggestions!





Merci!

Saturday, September 06, 2008

VITAMINS

Comment bien commencer la journée...
How to start the day well...


Full of antioxydents!


Friday, September 05, 2008

August / Août 2008

Finally...at last a little resume of August...starting with our family day...
Finalement...un petit résumé du mois d'août...en commençant avec notre family day...

Please, bare with me a few more days for the rest...
SVP, Attendez encore quelques jours pour la suite...

Family day - August 10

Top left - August 10, 2006 the day we met her and picked her up from the orphanage / En haut à gauche le 10.08.2006 le jour de notre rencontre à l'hôtel.
Top right - August 10, 2007 with Mimi's children at the "Parc Merveilleux" in Luxembourg / En haut à droite le 10.08.2007 avec les enfants de Mimi au Parc Merveilleux à Luxembourg.
Bottom left - August 10, 2008 in our back yard / En bas à gauche - le 10.08.2008 dans notre jardin

After a fabulous brunch with French toast, fruit, juice etc., we went to the pool.
Après un délicieux brunch avec du pain perdu et du jus frais, nous sommes allés à la piscine.



...and then to the Mudam (Museum of Modern Art). Mark had never been. As usual I love the architecture but was not terribly impressed by the exhibitions. ..
...puis direction Mudam (le Musé d'Art Moderne). Mark n'y était jamais allé. Comme d'habitude, j'aime l'architecture du bâtiment mais je n'était pas très impressionnée par la qualité des expositions.



One of the exhibition was of the artist Laurent Pariente (who lives in New York)
My understanding is he was trying to work with light and colours. It was like a labyrith and his constructions made with timber frames and each varying in width and colour. The effect of it was quite a success to me as it had a feel of semetry...needless to say that Bhavishya loved it!

L'une des expositions était par l'artiste Laurent Pariente (qui vit à New York). Il a essayé d'apporté une dimension colorée à son oeuvre. C'était comme un espèce de labyrinthe et cette construction était faite de parois en bois toutes de differentes épaisseurs et couleurs et entres elles étaient tirées des toiles transparentes et aussi de différentes couleurs. Inutile de dire que Bhavishya a adoré courir dans tous les sens!





The other exhibitions just weren't really my taste...Les autres expositions n'étaient pas vraiment ma tasse de thé.
We had a lovely lovely day!

Thursday, September 04, 2008

Happy 15th Anniversary, my Darling

I love you and I am so so proud to be your wife!



I don't want to write here...so all is in the card for you to read alone...

Monday, September 01, 2008