Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts

Friday, April 17, 2009

Un pavot parmi les marguerittes

Alors que je suis seule ce soir car Mark rentre tard de Prague et que Bhavishya dort à point fermé, je me suis mise à surfer à gauche et à droite et je suis tombée sur un magnifique conte qui s'intitule:
"Un pavot parmi les marguerites" de Lucie Bourassa.


Ce conte illustre parfaitement l'adoption et je assure que c'est une véritable petite merveille!

Voici une note de l'auteur:


Beaucoup d'enfants, qu'ils soient adoptés ou non,
ont besoin de se faire expliquer positivement pourquoi
ils ne vivent plus avec leurs parents biologiques.
Je suis la mère adoptive de deux enfants et j'ai longtemps cherché
des livres d'histoires adaptées à la situation mais sans succès.
C’est pourquoi j’ai écrit ce conte.
L'histoire nous aide à ouvrir des portes afin de faire des liens avec
la propre histoire de l'enfant. Les personnages et le contexte du
conte peuvent facilement être mis en relation avec les situations
que ces enfants ont vécues et les gens qu'ils ont côtoyés durant
leur petite enfance.
Ce conte peut intéresser non seulement les parents adoptants,
mais aussi les familles d'accueil qui doivent, un jour, raconter
le cheminement de vie à ces enfants.
Il s'adresse aussi aux enfants non adoptés, en voulant dissiper le
mystère entourant l'adoption et en répondant à leur interrogation.
Qui de nous ne connait pas un ami, un cousin ou un petit voisin
qui a été adopté.
L'adoption fascine tout le monde.
Lucie Bourassa

Je nous voit bien, tous en famille, ce week-end à le lire affalé sur le canapé et à siroté un chocolat chaud car la météo prévoit un temps de chien!

J'oubliai presque...vous pouvez le télécharger ici.

Happy Reading comme on le dit si bien en anglais!

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

A FILM ABOUT ADOPTION

AVIS - MIMI ET AMES SENSIBLES NE PAS REGARDER SVP!

My friend Amy, a fantastic photographer, has just finished creating the membership film for the Council on International Children's Services. I am a proud Mama. Bhavishya is in it twice! I bet only a few of you can spot /recognise her! You can watch it here!

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Congratulations to Steffie and family!

My friend Steffie just got the referral of a beautiful little boy a few days ago.

CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU ALL, STEFFIE! He's gorgeous!

You should check out her blog, it's a beautiful and fun place to go to!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Are our friends on the other side of the pond racist?




The other night, Mark was telling me about an article Rosemary Bennett, Social Affairs Correspondent for the Times wrote on the November 10th's issue.

Did you know that there is inter-racial taboos in adoption in the UK? That in 2002 an Adoption and Children Act placed on social workers and authorities to "give significant consideration to culture and identity when looking for suitable parents."?

That the waiting period of white children to be adopted are significantly shorter than children of other ethnicities?

Here is the full article:

Barriers that prevent white couples from adopting black children would be
removed by David Cameron under reforms to stop ethnic minority children
languishing in the care system.
Black and Asian children wait on average three times longer than white children for an adoptive family. Critics say too many adoption agencies are hung up on race, and waste time trying to find perfect matches for children of increasingly complex ethnicity.
The Conservatives have been examining the situation in the United States, where
the law changed ten years ago to prevent adoption agencies from giving
weight to race when finding adoptive families. Within two years of the
change, one third of states said the wait for placements among ethnic
minority children had dropped. A more relaxed attitude towards
inter-racial adoption, which is now almost unheard of in Britain, would give
thousands of children a loving home that they are currently being denied,
the Conservatives say.
The move comes as new figures show a decline in the number of children being adopted from the care system. This year only 2,600 children have been adopted, down from 3,600 in 2004. Experts say the Government needs to take urgent action.
Although popular in the 1970s, inter-racial adoption is now virtually taboo. The 2002
Adoption and Children Act places a duty on local authorities to give “significant consideration” to culture and identity when looking for suitable parents. Many experts believe, however, that that is being interpreted too literally. The Conservatives say they would rewrite part of the law. Michael Gove, Shadow Education Secretary, who was adopted, will head a Tory policy review into adoption, starting with inter-racial matching.
“If we can get more ethnic minority families to come forward, which ensures black children can be matched with black parents, that is fantastic. Our concern is some of the agencies allow the best to be the enemy of the good when it comes to judgments
over who is best placed to adopt children,” he told The Times.
“Being adopted myself, I firmly believe it is better to have children out of care and adopted. The longer they are in care, the more difficult it is for them, and to find adoptive families.” However, Sue Cotton, head of adoption services at the charity Action for Children, who has led efforts to find more ethnic minority families to adopt children, disagreed. “Any change in the law would be quite difficult if it denied the importance of racial identity.” she said.
“You have to balance that against the overall needs of the child. Where a significant
attachment has already been formed with a carer, for example, you would have to
look at that. But we have to learn from adults who went through it, and they say even where the adoption was successful in all other ways, a significant part of their identity is missing.” Research from Julia Feast, an expert in adoption, found 71 per cent of children in inter-racial adoptions said they always “felt different” from the rest of their family, compared with 48 per cent in same-race placements.

When you scroll down the page, there is a box called "Have your say"...interesting...

I should be most interested to hear what your views are regarding this article.


3:15 PM Edit:

On this link another article in the Times on line dated November 9, 2008 "Case study: ‘He knew he didn’t quite fit in’ ". Read this:

...“He had found it hard to adjust to the foster family. His first language is Gujarati, so they struggled to understand him. That meant a huge change in his behaviour when he came here, and we could speak to him. The second thing we noticed was how much he enjoyed our food. The foster parents had really tried and bought the food he knew. But they hadn’t been very good at cooking it and he didn’t know how to eat it"....

and then comes this:
..."But the most important thing is that he totally blends in with the entire extended family. “He doesn’t look any different from anyone...".

Here is my question again...is this racism or what???

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Cute Adoption Video

I found this on this blog. Thank you Kristi.

It is so very cute!

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Interesting site & blog

On one of the yahoo groups I belong to, we have a new member called Sarah. Sarah produced and directed a documentary called "Forget the past". It is about international adoption of Indian children.

To view the trailer, please click here.
A little background on Sarah Brandt Talreja. She was born in India, adopted internationally at a very young age, raised in Denmark and is currently living in Los Angeles.

She has a blog. I haven't really had the time to read it but it looks great. Here is the link.
Happy viewing and happy reading!

Saturday, December 29, 2007

Les douze pièges qui guettent les nouveaux parents adoptifs

En surfant un petit peu ce matin, je suis tombée sur ceci:

Les douzes pièges qui guettent les nouveaux parents adoptifs:

Le mythe de l'attachement mutuel instantané
Le syndrome de réparation
Le piédestal
La lune de miel
C'est merveilleux! Il est bien partout!
J'en veux! J'en veux!
Je suis enfin parent, alors pourquoi je me sens triste?
Je pensais avoir réglé ça!
On s'entendait si bien avant!!!
L'amour peut tout arranger!
L'inavouable déception
Je souligne la différence, j'ignore la différence

Pour en lire l'article en entier...veuillez cliquer ici. Nous avons assisté à plusieurs conférences donné par Johanne Lemieux, nous la trouvons excellente oratrice et très interessante.

Tuesday, October 02, 2007

A TRUELY AMAZING STORY! UNE HISTOIRE EXTRAORDINAIRE!

I was surfing a little on the blog sphere this morning and came accross the amazing story of Julia and her family...

J'étais occupée à surfer ce matin et je suis tombée sur l'incroyable histoire de Julia et sa famille...

Here is the link.

Voici le lien.

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Suivi post adoption de Bhavishya

Aujourd'hui nous avons reçu une lettre de l'association avec laquelle nous avons adopté Bhavishya.

Ils se réfèrent au document "Guidelines for adoption from india" issu de la CARA.

Il semblerait que nous n'aurons plus qu'à fournir 5 rapports au lieu de 14 au préalable. Soit:

1ere année:

  • Rapport d'arrivé
  • Après 3 mois - visite de l'Assistante sociale au domicile
  • Après 6 mois - rendez-vous fixé au bureau
  • Après 1 an - visite de l'Assistante sociale au domicile

2ème et 3ème année:

  • visite de l'Assistante sociale au domicile à la date d'anniversaire de l'arrivée

En plus pour les familles ayant accueilli un enfant de l'orphelinat de Madras, ils demandent de leurs communiquer un petit rapport personnel concernant l'évolution de leur enfant un fois par an.

Mimi, tu posais la question sur les rapports... voici la réponse ;-))

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

"My Child's incredible story" contest

I found a web site that has nearly the same name as mine. It is a very interesting blog indeed. Ruby has some very good ideas, pertinent ones as well...

Anyhow Ruby is throwing a contest called "My child's incredible story" which I think is a nice idea. Here are the rules...
  1. Only parents with adoptive children of Indian origin (In India or outside India) are allowed to participate.
  2. Word limit is 750 words.
  3. Only one entry per child is allowed.

Here are some more details:

Top four entries will be selected for the publication on the Indi(AA)doption
blog in July.
You must send your entries in Elglish language as an
attachment in Microsoft word file and email to indiahopehouse@gmail.com
Physical
copies of the entries at our physical address will not be accepted.
We
respect your privacy and if you like to send a photo (it is not required but
makes the story compelling when a face can be put to a name) of your child,
send
a high resolution digital photo along with your entry for publication.
Last
date to send your entries is June 15th, 2007
Good luck.

You can read more on his blog by clicking here.

Monday, May 14, 2007

Stricking a chord...

Tonight as I was reading an article in the new issue of "Adoptive family" magazine to which I subscribe, I kept going back to this one sentence Stacy Clarck wrote in her "How was the bonding?" article.

So I thought I would share it with you guys:

"A biological child is first a part of you, and, from the moment of birth, you and she gradually separate. An adopted child is separte at first , moving toward you until you two become one."

N.B. Her first child is a bio child, her second she adopted.